Sunday, July 17, 2011

Debby Against Drunk Driving..........a tribute to MADD and all who have been affected by a drunk driver.

I bring to you today a tribute to all of those who have been affected by a drunk driver. Any and ALL of these stories could have been changed by the simple act of calling someone or asking for help. We are adults and we should know better than to get in the car and drive after you have been drinking too much. Always know who your designated driver is and know your limits. If you are going to be out and have to drive home, stop drinking well before you will be leaving and don't leave until you have given enough time for it to wear off. Anything less is irresponsible! These stories have touched my heart and have even changed the way I will conduct myself as well. We all need to be more careful! You never know who's mommy or daddy, brother or sister, son or daughter you could harm if you make a bad decision.

My first story comes from a fellow polish addict, her story will be told through a video she created: *heart broken*

A mother passed away and a friend and sister lived through hell, because of some one's bad decisions

Next I bring you a story from a girlfriend of mine, Ms Tisha M: "Years ago, I had a couple of friends in college. They were both citizens who's parents immigrated form Pakistan. One was working 2 full time jobs to put the other (his younger brother) through college. One night a drunk in a pickup hit the younger brother head on. Hit him so hard that the pickup popped the hood and decapitated my friend. The car caught fire and by the time responders arrived all that was left was a burnt body. It was my first time in an Islamic Temple or to an Islamic funeral and it was gut wrenching that the family could only display a photograph. The older brother was inconsolable...."

:'( So young and taken too soon.....

Now we move on to a story from a mommy friend of mine Ms. Julie P: "When I was around 8, I think it was... or maybe it was 9? I lost a friend to a drunk driver. She had just turned 13. We used to take her and her older sister to church and youth group sometimes. It happened while I was in Idaho, visiting family. She was staying the night at a friend's house. The friend's mom got drunk and forced them (her, her friend and her friend's siblings) into the car. The drunk woman's children (3 of them, I think) were in the backseat. My friend was sitting in the front seat, but the seat belt was slashed. The drunk woman was driving over 100mph and flipped the car. She died instantly. Her children survived. My friend was in the hospital and was fighting for her life until she overheard a nurse talking about her condition and that the nurse didn't think she'd make it. She gave up after that. Her family had been trying to contact us, but we hadn't been home, as I said. I remember how I found out though... My sister wanted to take a walk with me and a few of my friends. She had gone into our apartment to ask permission while my friends and I waited outside the front door. Then my oldest sister came out and picked me up and I remember pushing away from her and yelling at her to put me down, but then she told me that my friend had been killed and I immediately stopped fighting her and began to cry. I cried and cried and cried. I think it was for an hour straight. My mom came home and I had just stopped crying. My face was all read, my eyes were puffy, I was blowing my nose. That's when she learned what had happened. My friend had been such an amazing, sweet person. I remember when we were in Idaho, my mom talking about how her grandpa had died when she was a kid and she said to me that she hoped I didn't have to experience anyone dying any time soon (up to that point, I hadn't). Then we came home to find out my friend had died while we were gone. I'll never forget her! I also remember driving to church one day in the car with her and she pointed up to the fluffy clouds and said she wondered if that was where God lived. I remember when I first heard she had died, remembering that moment and at least taking comfort in knowing that wherever Heaven is, she was there now with God. Even now, writing this, I'm tearing up. :'( "

I will forever think of all these precious souls lost too soon when I look up at the clouds, thanks for sharing Julie!

Next I have a story from an old high school friend of mine Dawn and this one was very recent and breaks my heart: "My cousin just got killed riding on a motorcycle with her bf who we believe was drunk! They left a wedding reception at 2am. Bf didn't see car and they hit making a turn. She flew off with no helmet. The Dr said she had not a single broken ...bone in her body. Her head took it all and it made her brain dead. The family was able to donate her organs which is helping them grieve. She was only in her 20's! Sad! We just laid her to rest today actually ;( "

WAY too young! *tears*

Now I bring you a story from my for lack of a better phrase *nephew in law* Will: "A close friend of mine that lived in Bolingbrook lost his wife one night after coming home from the bar...they were driving down Frontage Rd going towards the old neighborhood...Queenswood...​.and while they were arguing with each other she got mad and jumped out the van....she hit her head and died....then I think it was five years or so later when the same family still recovering from that and with dad being the parent ran his house the way he did...very relaxed like let there oldest son Kevin go out with friends and well they did a lot of drinking....and it was two or three in the morning they were coming back to Kevin's house on Queenswood and a lot of us from the old neighborhood is guilty for doing this but is one of those long street with no side walks but there is six street lights on that street and they gunned the van that they were driving in and started counting but one of the lights were out and they were over 80 mph and at the end of the road and went right into a bi-level ranch house and killed Kevin and a couple of his other friends as well....all because they thought it would be fun...sorry for it being all jumbled up....but I was really close to these ppl and trying to make the story as short as was in the news...this happened back in 2000 or 2001....Alcohol destroys so much and has destroyed a lot of ppl that I is really no good at all...I am really happy that I went sober years ago...and I thank Jesus that I didn't hurt anyone or my self like that when I was young and dumb...thank u for this post....c ya"

This post touches me because stuff like this happens all the time when you are young and haven't fully learned the real responsibilities you do as you grow older. It breaks my heart that this happened. :(

I also want to dedicate this to my SIL's cousin who also passed because of a drunk driver and my dear friend Diana's brother who passed away nine years ago this month from an accident as well but they are unsure if it was drinking or driving or not. RIP all you wonderful people who were taken from us too soon!! LOVE FROM HERE TO HEAVEN!!

And nails dedicated to everyone who have been affected by this issue. I painted them red to support MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Driving. Please take the time to check out their website here. If you have the funds please make a donation in the memory of all these missed loves. If not just take the time to make sure you don't drink and drive. Make sure YOU don't take away some one's loved ones with your decisions. We can all make a difference by consciously making the choice to not drive while intoxicated.

My nail: Claire's Poison Apple, with an accent finger of Funky Fingers Golden Coast and detailed with black striping. (ignore the tip wear I put another coat of top coat on then took a shower.....did some dishes scrubbed the stove........mopped the floor THEN took my pics LOL :/ )

and another random mani just because!! I would have done a post for this one but.......I took these crappy pics while I was doing it then proceeded to ruin half my nails right after I was done! LOL BOO to that! This is China Glaze Pelican Gray, then topped with Sally Hansen Night Lights (pic does NOT do it justice) then I added one finger of OPI red shatter for MADD.......

Thank you SO much for stopping by and taking the time to read my post!!

Until next time!

Love and Sparkles,


ADDED ON: I received a message today from my friend Diana about a friend of hers that has recently passed because of the actions of an irresponsible drunk driver, this was her message to me:

"So I know its over, but I too now have been affected by a drunk driver. My friend was riding his bicycle and a drunk driver hit him and took off left him in the street for 2 hours b4 a cop found his body. Thank goodness a neighbor called reported the damage on the guys car so they got the scumbag...heading to Decatur now to say goodbye to him. A great man R.I.P. Michael Wayne Wharton..sorry for depressing ya but I can't believe so soon after ur post my life would b affected by something like that :-( anyways woman have a great day"

Everyday we lose more and more wonderful and loved people to such a horrid preventable fate. Be responsible DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE!


Anonymous said...

wow that vid was so sad i was crying...good job Debby i love these colors! =)

RBK said...

Rip Kevin C <3

DebbyL said...

:'( Thanks for the comments ladies! <3